Something I have noticed when a person goes from PhD student to PhD candidate (ABD, ya’ll), is that this new candidate is suddenly full of advice for every person they run across. It’s like successfully defending your prelims suddenly gives you the license to spout off about anything and everything. I am not claiming not to be affected myself, in fact, I think I have been highly affected. Whether we are asked or not, we suddenly have no issue providing wisdom from our high horse of ABDness. And, usually, I think we run on too long and say way too much. I have been on the receiving end of this advice, even after becoming ABD myself, and have noticed that a question that you ask that should take 5 minutes to answer, suddenly becomes a marathon discussion of what you should be doing, who you should be reading, etc.
I’ve been wondering about this a lot. I have also been trying to control this advice giving disease, with limited success. Even in the responses to posts on this blog, I have found myself doing that (such as going on and on to Kristina B. about how she should visit departments. I mean, duh, I’m sure she knows that. It’s like I can’t help myself!). If I do go on and on, this is my apology. It doesn’t seem controllable.
Why does this happen? Some hypotheses please:
1. Perhaps it’s a status thing. Becoming ABD is a huge step in the PhD process. While I am constantly shifting between high status and low status depending upon my interaction partners, ABDness suddenly makes these shifts less extreme. You are very close to a lot of the newer faculty (although they still beat you with the status stick, it’s a less harsh of a beating than before). You also have higher status than most of the other graduate student in the department. Rather than the unclear 1st year, 2nd year, Nth year distinctions, this is a legitimate claim to higher status. That’s heady for someone who is usually on the low end.
2. I will never forget the talk given by the head of my MA department about what graduate school is. She indicated that our purpose here was to be an apprentice. I love that, and find it very true in the way I approach everything. Well, becoming ABD signals that the apprentiship is nearly over (especially when you ignore that pesky, pesky dissertation). We are slowly shifting our identities from graduate students to professors. I think perhaps we try to signal this shift by taking on more of the professorial roles–such as mentoring students. Not only do we say, “Look at my shinny new status,” we also get to say, “See how close to a professor I am now? Now I can start doing some of the things they get to do. So listen to me rattle on and on.”
3. At least when I do this, it is from a geniuine desire to help. Really. I want to help. I imagine that is similar for all ABDs who find themselves with the advice disease. This is the reverse of the incivility issue I discussed two days ago. But, we have to wonder how much of our motives involve: (1) Confirming my nice person identitiy; or (2) Confirming my almost-but-not-quite professor identity?
Thoughts? Anyone else have this disease? Can you tell me how to treat it?
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I recently defended my prelims, so my ABD status is quite new (and not officially in effect until I turn in the papers for my two classes). However, I don’t have the disease.
However, for those who do, I recommend…Ah, fuck it. The disease is part of the identity.
I would argue it’s less about identity confirmation and more about identity salience. We are now solidly committed to our identity, and therefore will look for every possible opportunity to enact it. And advice-giving is a good way to do that.
Plus, it’s a nice, subtle way to indicate that we are aware grad school is hell and HELLZ YEAH we made it out alive.
It’s really quite easy. There are only three obstacles. First is the flame spurt, and it makes a tell-tale noise right before going off. Second is the lightening sand, and once you’ve been sucked into one you know how to spot them, and third is the rodents of unusual size - but I don’t think they really exist.
Comment by anomie April 24, 2008 @ 7:01 pmI have thought about it, and I agree, salience is better. We seek to confirm, it is the motive, but the seeking to do so is because of salience. Confirmation is the outcome (if we are successful). I find myself changing my mind a lot around you. Works for me!
I find myself wondering, Anybody have a peanut?
Comment by pitse1eh April 24, 2008 @ 7:15 pmActually, ironically, I will be applying to programs without visiting. I don’t really have a choice in the matter for a couple of different reasons. Anyway, it’s entirely possible that I will not get into any programs anyway.
Part of the reason I value the internet is advice, although I have had instances (really just the one) of unsolicited advice that gave me pause. In the end, though, I enjoy a spirited debate, so even that was ultimately a positive outcome.
As a side note, since we three female soc grad students are here having this conversation, I would like to point out that we all:
- have expressed interest at one time or another in symbolic interactionism (assuming Goffman reference is an indication for you, pitse1eh)
- and share a fondness for sci-fi
odd, eh? is this some kind of weird pattern?
Comment by kristina b April 24, 2008 @ 8:13 pmOh, I’m a structural symbolic interactionist (see My Interests, and thank you Iowa school). Well, without getting all in your business, good luck with applying.
I wonder if a lot of sociologists love sci fi cause we hate society? I hate society a lot of the time.
Comment by pitse1eh April 24, 2008 @ 8:20 pmIn many ways the apprentice correllary plays well. As an ABD, you are now a journeyman, someone who has gone through the apprenticeship yet without the perfected skills of a master craftsmen. Journeymen are bossy without actually having power; we offer advice to those who we think need it, despite the fact that we may only have a marginally better clue than the person we’re advising. It’s happened in every profession, and it’s gonna happen in the future beyond our control.
Comment by jmsdonaldson April 24, 2008 @ 8:52 pmsci-fi is an awesome window into society because it filters out the nonsense while allowing writers to focus on interactions and structures that reflect our own culture. it takes the insidious stuff and makes it more clear by turning our attention to cylons, etc.
for example, a classmate of mine is presenting a paper on star trek in the race, class, and gender section session at asa. we should all go. i’m not into star trek, per se, but the appplication of soc to scifi is cool.
and i am a structural symbolic interactionist, but i think i am leaning more toward mccall and simmons.
Comment by anomie April 24, 2008 @ 9:36 pmand yay princess bride, too!
Comment by anomie April 24, 2008 @ 9:40 pmYes, Sci Fi does all that. But, honestly, I usually try to ignore my social psychological tingling that arises. I do read it to escape.
Comment by pitse1eh April 24, 2008 @ 10:02 pmhaha yes, yay princess bride. all mind-reader style, you caught my vague segway, anomie.
have either of you read any octavia butler? hands down my favorite author, particularly the Xenogenesis trilogy, which is some serious sociology, yo.
Comment by kristina b April 24, 2008 @ 10:04 pmp.s.
someone has leechblock turned off when she shouldn’t. ahem.
Comment by kristina b April 24, 2008 @ 10:05 pmp.s.s.
thank you for the luck, pitse1eh!
Comment by kristina b April 24, 2008 @ 10:06 pmAhh, leechblock. Why bother when you can talk to other amazing sociologists? Of course, I just mean Anomie.
I haven’t read Octavia Butler. But, if she’s as good as you say, I’ll check out the Xenogenesis trilogy next. I’m always looking for good tips, cause there is a lot of crap sci fi/fantasy out there.
You are welcome with the luck. I really hope we have you in sociology next year!
Comment by pitse1eh April 24, 2008 @ 10:10 pmHmm. I like sci fi because it lets you change the fundaments and see what happens. For example, Karl Schroeder’s “Sun of Suns” basically takes the effects of geography on societies and puts them on LSD - basically, all these societies are based on what are basically asteroids orbiting an artificial sun. Access to the sun’s light basically determines how advanced your society is; the biggest nations have their own mini-suns, and struggle to prevent their neighboring lesser nations from acquiring their own mini-suns. Plus, different asteroids orbit at different speeds, so dominant nations basically are engaged in continuous conquest at the leading edge of their turf while they leave wrecked, subjugated nations in their wake.
The parallels to real-world nuclear arms strategy and colonialism are awesome. I can’t do it justice here.
Comment by The Mad Slave April 25, 2008 @ 12:33 amI absolutely adore how this conversation turned from advice to a discussion of Sci Fi.
Love it!
And, I totally need to look up that presentation from your friend at ASA, Anomie. You know the day? My luck, I’ll be presenting at the same time.
Comment by pitse1eh April 25, 2008 @ 12:39 am“Westernizing” the Galaxy: Klingon “Otherness” as Affirming Human Superiority in Star Trek: The Next Generation. Sunday Aug 3, 4:30
And I haven’t read Octavia Butler, but this isn’t the first time she’s been recommended to me. Perhaps I should get on that one…
Comment by anomie April 25, 2008 @ 8:14 amYep, knew it. One of my papers goes at the same time. Suck.
Comment by pitse1eh April 25, 2008 @ 10:16 am